{"id":273,"date":"2023-01-30T13:21:09","date_gmt":"2023-01-30T10:21:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/?p=273"},"modified":"2023-01-30T13:21:09","modified_gmt":"2023-01-30T10:21:09","slug":"hollandaya-hosgeldiniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/2023\/01\/30\/hollandaya-hosgeldiniz\/","title":{"rendered":"HOLLANDA’YA HO\u015eGELD\u0130N\u0130Z."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Bir bebek sahibi olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z duygu, \u0130talya\u2019ya g\u00fczel bir seyahat plan\u0131 yapmaya benzer. \u0130talya hakk\u0131nda bir s\u00fcr\u00fc kitap, bro\u015f\u00fcr al\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Harika planlar yapmaya ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z: Collessium, Mikalanjelo\u2019nun Davut\u2019u, Venedik\u2019te gondollar\u2026 \u0130talyanca birka\u00e7 s\u00f6zc\u00fck bile \u00f6\u011frenirsiniz. Her \u015fey \u00e7ok heyecan vericidir.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aylar s\u00fcren beklemenin ard\u0131ndan o g\u00fcn gelir, \u00e7atar. Bavullar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 toplar, yola \u00e7\u0131kars\u0131n\u0131z. Birka\u00e7 saat s\u00fcren yolculuktan sonra, u\u00e7a\u011f\u0131n\u0131z havaalan\u0131na iner. Hostes mikrofonu eline al\u0131r ve<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2014\u201cHollanda\u2019ya ho\u015f geldiniz!\u201d der.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

 \u201cHollanda m\u0131?\u201d dersiniz. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNe Hollanda\u2019s\u0131? Ben \u0130talya\u2019ya bilet alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Benim \u0130talya\u2019ya gitmem gerek. T\u00fcm ya\u015fam\u0131m boyunca oraya gitmenin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fc kurdum ben.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fakat u\u00e7u\u015f rotas\u0131nda bir de\u011fi\u015fiklik olmu\u015f, Hollanda\u2019ya inmi\u015fsinizdir. Dahas\u0131 orada kalman\u0131z gerekir.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6nemli olansa; sizi korkun\u00e7, i\u011fren\u00e7, a\u00e7l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve hastal\u0131klar\u0131n pen\u00e7esindeki pis bir yere b\u0131rakmam\u0131\u015f olmalar\u0131d\u0131r asl\u0131nda. Sadece farkl\u0131 bir yerdesinizdir. Al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fe \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p yeni bro\u015f\u00fcrler- kitaplar alman\u0131z, yeni birka\u00e7 s\u00f6zc\u00fck \u00f6\u011frenmeniz gerekmektedir sonu\u00e7ta\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve belki, daha \u00f6nce hakk\u0131nda hi\u00e7bir \u015fey bilmedi\u011finiz insanlar tan\u0131mak zorunda kalacaks\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gitti\u011fimiz yerse, sadece farkl\u0131 bir yerdir. Oradaki ya\u015fam belki \u0130talya\u2019dakinden daha yava\u015ft\u0131r. \u0130talya kadar etkileyici de de\u011fildir. Fakat, bir s\u00fcre orada \u00f6ylece kald\u0131ktan sonra; nefesinizi tutar ve etraf\u0131n\u0131za bakars\u0131n\u0131z\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yel de\u011firmenlerini fark edersiniz\u2026 Etraf\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 saran, oraya ait ne kadar g\u00fczellik varsa her \u015feyi fark edersiniz\u2026 ve laleleri\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131z boyunca \u201cEvet. Benim de gitmem gereken yer oras\u0131yd\u0131. Bende ayn\u0131 plan\u0131 yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.\u201d dersiniz. S\u0131rf bu nedenle duydu\u011funuz ac\u0131 asla, asla dinmez. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yitirdi\u011finiz d\u00fc\u015f, \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Ancak; t\u00fcm ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u0130talya\u2019ya gidemedi\u011finiz i\u00e7in \u00fcz\u00fclerek ge\u00e7irirseniz, Hollanda\u2019n\u0131n g\u00fczelliklerinden hi\u00e7birinin tad\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0131karamazs\u0131n\u0131z…<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

                                                                                                                  Emily Perl Kingsley<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anne ve Baba…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Her zaman s\u0131cac\u0131k duygular olu\u015fturan s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerdendir. Bu s\u00f6zc\u00fcklere g\u00fc\u00e7 kazand\u0131ran, adeta ruh verense o s\u00f6zc\u00fcklere y\u00fcklenen anlamlard\u0131r asl\u0131nda\u2026 Bu anlam aray\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kimi zaman, ciddi g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklerle s\u0131nan\u0131r bu kavramlar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00d6zel gereksinimli bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa sahip olmak anne-baban\u0131n en son isteyece\u011fi \u015feydir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ailelerin; \u00f6zel bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa sahip olduklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendiklerinde g\u00f6sterdikleri ilk tepkiler ile izleyen d\u00f6nemlerde ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131, birbirlerine benzerlik g\u00f6stermektedir. Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7tan; \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u015fu an ki durumuna kadar ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 ise \u201cUyum s\u00fcreci\u201d olarak adland\u0131r\u0131lmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu evreleri birbirinden tam anlam\u0131yla ay\u0131rmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmasa da 3 ba\u015fl\u0131k alt\u0131nda toplayabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  \u0130NK\u00c2R: \u00c7ocu\u011fun durumunun ilk \u00f6\u011frenildi\u011finde ya\u015fanan \u015fok, te\u015fhise inanmama, sorunu g\u00f6rmezden gelme vb\u2026 gibi davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunurlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  Z\u0130H\u0130NSEL FARKINA VARI\u015e: Bu evre ise ink\u00e2r evresini a\u015farak biraz daha olay\u0131n fark\u0131na varmay\u0131 i\u00e7erir. Ailenin \u00e7e\u015fitli ki\u015fi ve kurumlara kar\u015f\u0131 \u00f6fke ve k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k g\u00f6stermesi; e\u015flerin birbirini su\u00e7lamas\u0131, kendini su\u00e7lamas\u0131 gibi davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6zlenir. Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, ac\u0131 ve utan\u00e7 bu durumu izleyen duygulard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Z\u0130H\u0130NSEL VE DUYGUSAL UYUM: Anne ve babalar art\u0131k bu evrede sorumluluk hissetmeye ba\u015flarlar. Art\u0131k aile, zaman\u0131n\u0131 ve enerjisini d\u00fczenleyerek, \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in gerekli ve uygun beklentileri ve gereksinimleri olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu evreler; her ailede yo\u011funluklar\u0131 ve davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imleri farkl\u0131 olarak ta ya\u015fanabilir. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131n sonucunda ula\u015fmak istedi\u011fimiz as\u0131l nokta E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M\u2019dir. B\u0130L\u0130N\u00c7LENMEKT\u0130R.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bireyin ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z olarak s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmesine katk\u0131da bulunmak, ya\u015fam kalitesini art\u0131rmak ve en \u00f6nemlisi \u201cBa\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z bir ya\u015fam kazand\u0131rmak\u201d i\u00e7in E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M ve ERKEN E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M diyoruz. B\u0130L\u0130N\u00c7LENMEK D\u0130YORUZ.!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve MUTLAKA diyoruz\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hayat, her \u015feye ra\u011fmen \u00e7ok g\u00fczel\u2026 \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerle, beklentilerle, engellerle dolu olsa da g\u00fczel\u2026 T\u00fcm olumsuzluklar\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fclerin yan\u0131nda-aras\u0131nda sevgiler var. G\u00fcl\u00fcc\u00fckler, sevin\u00e7ler, payla\u015f\u0131lanlar ve payla\u015fanlar var. Her \u015feyden \u00f6nemlisi \u201cO\u201d var\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O\u2019nu seviyoruz. O, bizim yavrumuz. O \u00e7ok \u00f6zel ve O \u00e7ok g\u00fczel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

 Sa\u00e7lar\u0131, g\u00f6zleri, elleri, kalbi k\u0131sacas\u0131 HER \u015eEY\u0130YLE AMA HER \u015eEY\u0130YLE  bizim\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tek dile\u011fimizse onun can\u0131n\u0131n hi\u00e7 yanmamas\u0131. Hep g\u00fcls\u00fcn minik g\u00f6zleri, hep g\u00fcls\u00fcn. Son nefesine kadar hem de\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tek ba\u015f\u0131na olsa bile, hep g\u00fcls\u00fcn, hep\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHollanda\u2019ya ho\u015f geldiniz!\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bir bebek sahibi olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z duygu, \u0130talya\u2019ya g\u00fczel bir seyahat plan\u0131 yapmaya benzer. \u0130talya hakk\u0131nda bir s\u00fcr\u00fc kitap, bro\u015f\u00fcr al\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Harika planlar yapmaya ba\u015flars\u0131n\u0131z: Collessium, Mikalanjelo\u2019nun Davut\u2019u, Venedik\u2019te gondollar\u2026 \u0130talyanca birka\u00e7 s\u00f6zc\u00fck bile \u00f6\u011frenirsiniz. Her \u015fey \u00e7ok heyecan vericidir. Aylar s\u00fcren beklemenin ard\u0131ndan o g\u00fcn gelir, \u00e7atar. Bavullar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 toplar, yola \u00e7\u0131kars\u0131n\u0131z. Birka\u00e7 saat s\u00fcren […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":274,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[14,17,16],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/273"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=273"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/273\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":275,"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/273\/revisions\/275"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/274"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=273"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=273"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/burcukaplan.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=273"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}